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What I Hope You Wouldn’t Do

Posted in Marriage & Family on: May 19th, 2011
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I strongly dislike the ABC television program “What Would You Do?” for a variety of reasons, but last Friday’s episode crossed the line from annoying to utterly irresponsible.

In case you’re unfamiliar – which I sincerely hope is the case – the show sets people up on a hidden camera with various scenarios where people (actors) are engaging in some behavior that is frowned upon by society.  Some are obvious – stealing items from an open house.  Some are more subtle (and confusing as to how this situation would ever arise in real life) – a youth being coerced into being a child bride in a polygamous family.  In every case, they film the bystanders’ reactions and, generally, interview and applaud those who intervene.

There are serious legal and safety issues with injecting yourself into a potentially dangerous situation (instead of calling the police or alerting other authorities), yet the show implies that the “right” thing to do is to interfere. In some cases, the supposedly “noble” thing to do is scold a parent whose beliefs you disagree with (even if the child is not in any kind of physical or emotional danger). (more…)

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Sharing Christ with 2 Billion People

Posted in Marriage & Family on: May 5th, 2011
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I was faced with two options last Thursday night:

  1. Watch hours of Royal Wedding coverage.
  2. Watch hours of NFL 1st round draft analysis.

I ended up going with a third, less glamorous option though:

  • Go to bed early.

While the extra sleep is always nice, I found out later that I missed an amazing message that was shared by the Revered Dr. John Hall during the Royal Wedding. In a very succinct manner, Dr. Hall explained why marriage is such a sacred and holy thing:

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in the sight of God and in the face of this congregation to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is an honorable estate instituted of God himself signifying unto us the mystical union that is betwixt Christ and his Church, which holy estate Christ adorned and beautified with his presence and first miracle as he wrought in Cana of Galilee and is commended in holy writ to be honorable among all men, and therefore is not by any to be enterprised nor taken in hand unadvisedly, lightly or wantonly, but reverently, discreetly, soberly and in the fear of God duly considering the causes for which matrimony was ordained.

First, it was ordained for the increase of mankind, according to the will of God and that children might be brought up in the fear and nurture of the Lord and to the praise of his holy name.

Secondly, it was ordained in order that the natural instincts and affections implanted by God should be hallowed and directed aright, that those who are called of God to this holy estate should continue therein in pureness of living.

Thirdly, it was ordained for the mutual society help and comfort that the one ought to have for the other, both in prosperity and adversity, into which holy estate these two persons present come now to be joined.

Some estimate that two BILLION people heard this message of truth and hope. Think about it this way: During a ceremony that is better known for its extravagance and excess, God’s word about the holiness of marriage was heard by nearly 1/3 of the world’s population. How great is our God!?

If you want to read the complete transcript, click here.

(Thanks to our friends at the California Policy Council for sharing this with us).

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For the Record: CBS Missed the Point

Posted in Marriage & Family on: March 25th, 2011
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Children do best with a mom and a dad.

This is not news to most people, and when you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. The social science data only confirms this, which is why CAP is supporting SB 1188.

Apparently, accuracy on this issue isn’t enough for some of the media. They prefer to sensationalize opponents’ talking points. The favorite arguments are that this bill will stop single adults from adopting children, or that this is about stopping homosexuals from adopting.

But if you were to take a minute to read the bill, you’d see neither of these assertions are true. Nothing in this bill addresses homosexual adults adopting children. Nothing in this bill prohibits single individuals from adopting children.

Here’s what the bill does: It requires agencies placing children for adoption to place the child in the home best meeting the child’s emotional, safety, physical, social, and mental health needs, and consider “relevant factors” for placement that include (in no particular order):

1. Marital status.

2. The child’s birth parents’ wishes.

3. Whether the child has a pre-existing relationship with a single adult, including family members, foster parents, or family friends.

4. Whether the adult has the ability to financially provide for the child.

5. The placement of the child’s siblings.

Then, the bill says that, if all these factors are equal and the choice is between a married man and woman or a single individual, then the child should be placed with the married man and woman.

In committee testimony, Dr. Gary Auxier – a pediatrician for over 30 years – pointed out that all the studies he sees shows that children do best in an intact home led by a married mom and dad. The data is clear. In a 2006 study published in the William and Mary Bill of Rights Journal titled “Bringing Up Baby: Adoption Marriage, and the Best Interests of the Child,” Brad Wilcox and Robin Wilson said “Children appear most likely to thrive socially, emotionally, and educationally when they are reared in an intact or adoptive family headed by a married couple.”

CBS decided to skip this data and the facts, and went with this instead.

For the Record:

• Again, SB 1188 will not stop singles from adopting, it simply provides children the best opportunity to have a mom and a dad.

• In situations where the child has been placed with a single individual serving as a foster parent, then that single individual will be able to adopt the child. SB 1188 clearly says that a relevant factor to be consider is whether the child has a healthy, meaningful relationship already with a single individual.

• SB 1188 is not about homosexual adoption. If we decided to promote legislation to prohibit homosexual adoption, we would clearly state in the bill that same-sex individuals or couples could not adopt children in our state.

• This bill does not take away from the heroic work of single parents. It simply puts the best interest of the child before anything else. When all circumstances are equal, social science data shows that having a mom and a dad is what’s best for kids.

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